More Than Meets the Eye, True Stories about Death, Dying, and Afterlife covers many aspects of the dying and grieving process and sheds light on euthanasia, suicide, near-death experience, and spirit visits after the passing of a loved one. ___________________________________________

Monday, July 2, 2012

Caregivers Setting Boundaries & Breaking Soul Contracts

There comes a point when it is time to give up clan, tribal, familial, and societal norms and expectations and move into the unknown in order for your soul to find acceptance and love. Often, this requires setting boundaries with others who have tried to control you. This is something many empathic people find difficult to do.

We came to Earth to inspire others, not to do everything for them, or to be something for them that they can be for themselves. We empaths came here to be examples of a more evolved human—one that goes beyond the norm and pushes the envelope of what humans previously believed they could do.

People know how to suffer, live in lack, and be sick. We Lightworkers came to demonstrate health, abundance, success, and happiness. We came to teach and demonstrate the Universal Laws of manifestation through thought, desire, attitudes, emotions, and gratitude. Accomplishing this mission may require that you give up the friends or relationships you have now—especially if they are harmful or holding you back.

There’s much said about being a martyr, and none of it (in my opinion) is positive. Our society heralds self-less caregivers as saints, but how many are cheerful givers? How many people really enjoy being a doormat? How many honestly want to give up their own lives and goals to care for another person who has manifested an illness? Our bodies obey the commands of our minds. If the body has become sick, it is because at some subconscious level the mind believes it should be or deserves to be ill. Perhaps there is some payoff that this person receives for being incapacitated. Dr. Henry Grayson’s book, Use Your Body to Heal Your Mind, deals with this in detail.

Is it the fear of what others (friends, family, or even your “patient”) will think of you that keeps you from putting the very draining and incapacitated person in a facility where they can be cared for by staff members who are trained for this purpose? I just finished reading a book titled What You Think of Me is None of My Business and it sets the record straight on why it is important to care for yourself and develop your own soul. Spirit is waiting for you to manifest your heart's desire.

If you are afraid that your “patient” won’t be cared for as well as you can care for them at home, then you are not allowing that person to have the experience that their soul set up for learning. Have you ever considered how taking on this kind of burden or responsibility could abort your own soul’s spiritual lessons? You may need to break soul contracts and sever any psychic ties you have with this person and allow them to find their own path through the suffering they have created for themselves (as a coach, I can help you with this). Their suffering does not have to be your suffering, unless you agree to it.

So, consider honestly answering a few questions.
  • It is a sense of obligation that keeps you duty bound to the bedside of a loved one?
  • How many burdens are you carrying that are not your own?
  • Why are you running interference and keeping another person from resolving karma?
  • Why are you allowing your own “temple of the Holy Spirit” to lay in ruins while you give, give, give?
  • How long will you allow others to make demands of you?
  • What can you do today to begin to care for yourself and stop worrying about what other people think of you? 

Yvonne Perry is the author of More Than Meets the Eye ~ True Stories about Death, Dying, and Afterlife. Purchase paperback on It's also on Amazon as an e-book for those who have Kindle or Sony Readers. The audio book is also now available!
Whose Stuff Is This? ~ Finding Freedom from the Thoughts Feelings and Energy of Those around You; and Shifting into Purer Consciousness ~ Integrating Spiritual Transformation with the Human Experience.

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p.m.terrell said...

I really enjoyed this post today, Yvonne. You truly hit the nail on the head when you said that we are not meant to take on another's feelings or actions but rather to inspire them. It is so easy to allow ourselves to be drained; life goes way too quickly and I don't believe we can reach our own potential if we are carrying more than our share of burdens for others. That might sound selfish but I believe we owe it to ourselves to be all we can be.

Yvonne Perry said...

Thanks so much for your hopeful, helpful comment, P.M. It was hard to write that post because it hits so close to home.