Can a Soul Learn Lessons in the Afterlife?

The soul is multidimensional and simultaneously lives in many places or "mansions" as the Bible calls these realms. Even the part of the soul that is in the human body on Earth does not fit completely inside the body–it extends into the aura, which can be expanded indefinitely.

Upon the death of the human body, the more spiritually evolved aspect of the soul crosses into the light, which I believe is a portal into a higher dimension of consciousness. The vibration or frequency of that dimension is much higher than that of the Earth plane. Part of the soul that is "left behind" when the body dies is known as the astral body, which contains the memories of the life experiences it gained on Earth. These negative (low-vibrating) emotions and thoughts may get stuck in the Earth plane, and be seen as ghosts or apparitions. It may also fuel itself on the negative emotions, thoughts, and habits (such as substance abuse) of a human host through that person's astral field/body, to which it attaches itself. If the entity gains enough fuel or energy, it can begin to move objects or cause problems for other humans who may not even realize this is what is happening. The good news is that this negative aspect of the soul can still learn lessons, change its ways, and prepare for reincarnation while in this state of afterlife. If it achieves enough insight (positive energy that does not come from siphoning from humans) to raise its vibration or resonate at a higher frequency, it can move into higher dimensions and join with higher evolved aspects of itself. Many people are skilled in helping these Earthbound souls cross over.

My information comes from my personal experience with dis-incarnate spirits as well as from Ethan Vorly's work and The Spirit's Book by Allan Kardec. I hope that brings a little more clarity to this mystery of souls and the afterlife.
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What Death Can Teach Us About Life

By Dora Carpenter

Death should not be the end of your life. It should be the beginning of your "new" life. While working in the death care industry, I think I buried as many unfulfilled dreams as I buried bodies. I listened to countless families tell stories of unfulfilled wishes of their deceased loved ones. Stories of how the deceased always wanted to write a book, go fishing, climb a mountain, parasail, start a business, spend time with the grandchildren, work fewer hours, start a fitness program, travel the world, learn to play the piano, ski... the list goes on.

The death of a loved one naturally gives thought to our own mortality. Unfortunately, these thoughts are brief, lasting until we are back to our daily, usually rushed, routines of life. It is so often said that "life is short." What does that really mean? Try this experiment today. Ask at least ten people what does the statement, "Life is short" mean to them. In most cases, many will have to stop and think about it before they answer you.

We oftentimes spend a majority of our life getting ready to live our life; so, what does "living our life mean?" See how deep this can get if we keep going? So, let's talk about life. Here are three things that death can teach us about life:

• Life if precious, yet so fragile. We take so many of our life's situations and circumstances for granted. We assume that our newborn will be born healthy. We assume that our spouse, whom we argued with last night and didn't speak to this morning before leaving for work, will return home for dinner. We assume that our children will grow up to be well-respected professionals. It is usually the death of a loved one or close friend that heightens our sense of the fragility of life.
• Stop and smell the coffee. This saying we use often, but act upon rarely. When did you last sit or walk and marvel at the beauty of nature; notice the individual petals of a rose; stare into the waves of the ocean; experience and appreciate the innocent smile of a child; inhale and enjoy the aroma of a cup of coffee or tea; or, spend quality time with family and friends without cell phone and text interruptions?
• Find gratitude in everything. This is my favorite because, to me, this is really what life is all about. When we live a life of gratitude, you tend to find the positive in every situation. Find things each day to be grateful for. Keep a gratitude journal. When you greet each day with gratitude and love, and greet each person with gratitude and love (although sometimes not so easy to do), your perspective on life will change. This will also reduce many of the emotions felt when a loved one dies, especially guilt, regret, and anger.

An exercise for you: Think of something that you can do for someone else (no matter how small) in honor of your deceased loved one. One of the most effective ways to work through grief is to help someone else.

I sum it up with my mantra, my slogan: Everything in life is temporary, including life itself. Decide to Say Yes! to the gift of now.

Statistics show that it normally takes 5-8 years to recover from a devastating loss. Dora Carpenter, Certified Grief Coach, Certified Life Coach, and founder of The ANIYA Group Life Coaching Center, says it doesn't have to take that long. Her grief coaching practice offers hope, encouragement and support. In her book, "The Grief to Gratitude Blueprint... What to Do When Death Occurs," Dora gives tips on 24-72 hours following a death... and beyond. Download her book at http://www.amazon.com/dp/B0098B86XU.

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7 Signs Spirit May Be Communicating With You

By Joanna Garzilli

I'm always in awe when someone in spirit gives information I couldn't possibly know. If I wasn't having the experience, it would be hard for me to believe.

Your loved ones are often close by. They want to protect, guide, teach and heal your pain.

The more aware you become of the spirit world, the easier it will be for you to receive guidance from your spirit guides.

Who are your spirit guides?

Your spirit guides may be a deceased grandparent, parent, sibling, soul mate or best friend. You often have more than one spirit guide because they are present to support you in various areas of your life.

Here are 7 signs spirit may be trying to communicate with you:

#1 The message is in the music. Have you ever heard a song on the radio and felt like it was speaking to you? Did you notice how the words stood out? Did you become emotional?

#2 It's frightfully cold in here. If you feel very cold, shivery or have goose-bumps in a room that has no reason to be cold, it is likely that there is spirit activity in this place. Spirit vibrates at a higher frequency.

#3 Visitations in your dreams. Have you dreamt of one of your deceased loved ones and felt like it was very real? It is easier for spirit to connect with you while you sleep because your mind is at peace and you are receptive.

#4 You feel a spirit's presence. Just because you can't see a loved one doesn't mean they aren't there. If you sense it, know you are not making it up.

#5 You hear your own voice inside your head. When a deceased loved one speaks with you, it usually sounds like your own voice however it has a distinct feeling to it. You'll know because it is different from what you would think or say.

#6 Touched by an angel. Have you ever felt like someone is touching the top of your head, tip of your nose or is tickling your arm, yet nothing is visible?

#7 Electrical disturbances. Spirit love communicating through light bulbs, telephones, TVs and computers. Have you ever seen the lights flicker on and off? Or heard a lot of static on the telephone line? See if you can start noticing the difference between an electrical problem and when spirit is trying to make it's presence known to you.

The Other Side.

Becoming aware of the spirit world takes time. It's like switching the light off in a room and not being able to see in the dark. As time passes, your eyes adjust to the dark. You begin to see things you couldn't see before. This is how the realm of spirit operates. You will see.

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Explaining a Pet's Death To a Child

By Emma Nutter

When a family pet dies it can be difficult enough for an adult to cope with, let alone a child. A pet's passing is usually the first encounter a child has with the subject of death, and it can be very frightening and confusing. Handling the situation properly can make a huge difference on how the child copes with the death of the pet, and how they feel about the subject of death for the rest of their lives. I, personally, have had many pets in my childhood and found their deaths to be especially traumatic and they left a lasting impression on me. How you handle the subject is largely dependent on the age of the child.

Under 2: The child may realise the pet is gone but is more likely to be affected by the actions of those around them. If you are upset the child will pick up on that but they are too young to understand the subject of death and will probably not be affected by the pet being gone.

2 to 5: Between these ages the child will be aware that the pet is gone, and may miss playing with it. They are more likely to see the animals death as temporary, and will not be able to grasp that the pet is "not coming back". Explaining to the child that the pet has died will probably be necessary, and it is important that you do make death sound frightening but that all pets die, and when they do die they are in a peaceful and happy place.

5 to 9: The child will be more likely to understand that death is permanent, and will be more traumatised by the pets death. They may cry a lot and experience feelings of guilt. It is important that the child understands that all pets die, and that it is not their fault.

10 and above: Children are now able to understand that all things die, but even though they understand death they are likely to experience all the emotions of grief. It may be necessary to take your child to a counsellor if they are particularly affected.

Should I Show My Child The Pet's Body?

Again this is dependent on age. A child under the age of 5 will only be more traumatised and confused at the sight of a dead body, which means it is better not to let them see it. If the body is distressing for example if it has wounds then it is best not to show it to a child of any age. If the pet looks peaceful then you can give the choice to a child over 7 if they wish to see the body.

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GEOS Hand-Crafted Biodegradable Urn

Specially designed for burying your loved one's ashes, GEOS is a hand-crafted biodegradable urn made from binding plant organic substrate, fiber, golden sand and plant extracts. The urn's lid can be replaced and a seedling of the tree of your choice can be planted there to cultivate that new life. The urn's dissolution time will always depend on how moist the ground is.

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Are You Aware That You Have Spirit Guides?

By Jayzn Johns

Everybody is born with a degree of psychic ability. For many people it is lost as they grow up and don't pay attention to it. For others, it stays and they listen to it and they become what we all call psychic.

Everyone has spirit guides, the difference is that some people are aware of them whereas the majority are not.

Your spirit guides are there to observe, to teach, to heal and to help you on your own spiritual journey. Part of their spiritual journey is to be your guide. Guides come and go through your life as you need different types of help. Often you can have more than one guide for different aspects of your life.

Knowing your spirit guide is a very useful ability because they you can communicate with him or her and can the advantage of an additional point of view.

Imagine you are looking along a road. There's a bend in the road ahead of you. From your vantage point you can see only so far around the bend. Your spirit guide is further along the road than you and can see further around the bend than you can.

When you learn to communicate with your guides you will have access to a higher knowledge that will help you in your life. You will find your intuition and instincts are better because you have this higher knowledge.

You will also find a sense of peace from this knowing. Knowing your guides are there and their purpose will help you to realise your part in the divine order of things. No longer do you think you are a single entity lost in the vastness in space. Instead you become aware of the interconnectedness of things and how you are a part of a bigger whole, a grander plan if you like.

There are many different ways for you to contact your guides. Anyone can talk to them, regardless of background or psychic ability. You just have to learn to establish a communication channel with them. For some this is verbal communication, for others they hear things, for others they have feelings and for some this communication manifests in stranger forms like songs or music.
Whichever form of communication you have with your guides, it is the right one for you.

The best form of accessing the wisdom of your guides is through a guided meditation. Using a meditation CD will help you immensely in communicating with your guides. How long it takes for you to establish that communication will vary from person to person but typically you'll see results within just a few goes with the CD.

These CD's work by relaxing your conscious mind so that your sub-conscious mind becomes more clear. Through this relaxation, you cut out that nagging voice that questions and doubts everything, making it easier for your guides to be heard.

Think of it as you are in a noisy room and your guide is whispering to you. If you cut out the background noise (your conscious mind) then you can hear the whisper of your guide. As you talk to your guide more so you will find the communication becomes easier until you can do it at will in any place at any time.

Communicating with your spirit guide can provide you with a sense of peace and tranquility knowing that there is a divine scheme of things and that there is more to the world than you may have thought. A meditation CD is perhaps the best way for you establish this communication and create a relationship with your guide.

Learn how to contact your spirit guide with this highly effective meditation CD. Listen to this CD and be guided in to a state of deep relaxation where you can contact your spirit guide and learn to speak to them whenever you want. Anyone can learn to speak to their spirit guides through a program such as this.
 

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Hospice Care and Palliative Care: Similarities and Differences

By Katrina Millar

For most people there is no difference between palliative care and hospice care, especially to those who are not in the healthcare field. They may seem similar in terms of their philosophy, but these two are quite different in many ways. This article will bring clarity to such confusion. If you know of anyone, may it be your family or friend who is confused between the two, this article will help you get a better idea of what the two types of care are all about. This is also helpful to nurses who are either working for or wanting to work in these types of fields.

What is Hospice Care?

It is described as support and care for patients who are terminally ill. It is the facility's goal to give them the best comfort and satisfaction with their remaining life. Rather than focusing on the finding a cure for their illnesses or trying to extend their lives, the facility does its best in making them happy during their living days. They want the patients to experience a good quality of life.

Their philosophy is that which accepts the reality of death. That death is part of life and one must accept it.

What is Palliative Care?

Palliative care is used inside and outside hospice locations. In general terms, palliation is described as that which focused on relieving and preventing suffering in patients who have diseases or conditions that are not responsive to curative treatment. Palliative care's goal is to give patients relief from their illnesses.

While they both have similarities, they are still essentially unique on their own. Palliative care is usually being offered and used in hospitals, whereas hospice care is usually used in a patient's home. Palliative care areas offer therapies that aim to give patients a longer life, as this kind of care does not stop them from finding a cure for their illness of condition. On the other hand, hospice care facilities only treat patients who are willing to give up any treatments that can cure them of their conditions. If they are still in search of curative treatments, they may not get coverage for their care. When it comes to costs and reimbursement, hospice care is fully paid by Medicare benefit or Medicaid. It is also important to note that those who want hospice care through Medicaid or Medicare must be found to be within the last six months of their life.

Working in hospice care and palliative care are both rewarding for registered nurses. Which RN specialization would you prefer?

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Talking to Spirits - How to Contact Deceased Friends and Relatives From Home

By Danny Fredricks

Are you interested in spirit communication? Does the idea of opening a wild, wacky and wonderful window into the world of spiritual beings sound scary... or scintillating and sensational? In my many years of experience with psychic and paranormal research, I can tell you that there are 3 very specific camps that most people fall into.

1. "True Blue" believers
2. Hard core skeptics and cynics
3. The CURIOUS but not convinced

Which one are you?

The truth is, you can get all of the personal proof and afterlife evidence you want, without having to believe anything I say is true, or to take the skeptics at their word, either. The afterlife IS available to be studied by anyone with a sincere interest, and who is willing to go out on a bit of a limb and be adventurous with respect to the unknown.

I want to share with you 4 things you can do to begin to experience the afterlife NOW. These all have worked wonderfully well for me, and have opened me up to an amazing array of experiences over the years that I didn't believe possible. Remember though, just because something works for one person....doesn't mean that it will work well for the next. That's why it's important to use different channels, approaches and mediums (no pun intended!) for accessing the kind of evidence AND experiences that work for you.

• Ouija Boards and Spiritual Tools
• EVP (voice activated digital recording of electronic voice phenomena)
• Psychic Mediums
• Meditation

Many of these things work really well together. For example, using a digital recording device while "working" with a ouija board can be a very cool experience, and can yield amazingly empowering results.

One one hand... the ouija board planchette is moving around seemingly on it's own, and then later.....when you listen to the recording, EVP's are captured very clearly that you KNOW you didn't audibly hear while using the board.

Spooky? It can be!

But exciting? If you are genuinely interested in spirit communication... very!

Again, meditating before speaking to a psychic medium can be very effective for me as well, as does practicing meditation in general, on a daily basis prove to be a great spiritual tool for opening yourself up to realities that are closed off during ordinary consciousnesses.

And remember... one of the most important lessons I've learned from 20 years of exploration is this:
it's often equally as difficult for your loved ones to come through on THEIR side, as it is for us, to access them... on ours.

Using time tested tools and techniques like above may be controversial to some... but there is a reason they've been along for as long as they have and continue to be used.

They WORK! (And if you don't believe me....I challenge you to see for yourself!)

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Caskets - Guidance on Eco-Friendly Burial

By Danny A Bishop

Nowadays it is possible to prepare an eco-friendly or green funeral service for your relatives with eco-friendly caskets and cremation urns. For households who do not like to harm the planet while placing their household to rest can include greener choices into their funeral set up. Green funerals are all about maintaining the funeral service simple, pure and elegant as possible by returning to nature in a way that won't harm the environments, but will actually retain the yard and enhance opportunities for birds it's about leaving the earth a much better place. The eco-friendly funeral movement is gaining momentum. Lots of people are choosing to be buried in caskets that don't create toxins and pollutants into the environment.

Initially, you will need to decide what to do with the dead body. There are numerous possibilities, all of which are green. An example may be cremation. Over the past several years, crematoriums are making an effort to lower their emissions. Despite minimal pollution, cremating may be better for the atmosphere compared to traditional funerals. If you like to pick a technique against cremation, go with burial, here you are burying your loved one in a green cemetery in an "Green" casket. Under these circumstances, the body eventually decomposes, becoming portion of the world. Many processes that are part of basic funerals, such as embalming, conventional coffins and concrete containers, delay this procedure, using unfavorable items to the planet. Eco-friendly graveyards do not let some of these circumstances to be exposed to the environment within their border.

With regards to memorials, there are many methods that can be obtained. Becoming increasingly popular, you may now pick from a variety of eco-friendly or green caskets. These caskets are biodegradable and are good for the earth. Most individuals find that there is a financial difference between green caskets and traditionally caskets. The least expensive, and likewise green casket, is the cardboard casket. This casket is as large as a usual casket; however it is shaped in more of a rectangular shape with a top that fits over it. Extremely cost-effective, card board eco-friendly caskets tend to cost more or less $50.

Keep it small. A funeral service of only a few close friends and family members creates far fewer wastes than inviting thousands of individuals, many of whom travel long distances to visit. For the service alone, keep things local and low impression. Print programs on recycled papers, use locally produced flowers, carpool during the procession, or even offer organic foods. Leave a living memorial. Instead of a more regular gravestone or mausoleums, consider growing a tree honoring the deceased. This funeral is not only more ecologically sounded than the traditional memorial, but also much more welcoming and hopeful.

Aside from donating your loved one's organs, selecting an eco-friendly caskets and urn there is another significant factor you need to think about. Select a green funeral ground. Eco-friendly funeral grounds support the healthy growth of local plants and creatures and take care of the land on which they sit from encroaching development.

Learning more about different kinds of caskets can certainly help anyone at the end. You can in fact find more details regarding coffins online.

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The Loss of a Pet: Best Ways to Memorialize

By Maryann Piccini

The loss of someone that you love, or care for deeply is a very painful experience. Many people are able to relate to the death of a person, but few are able to understand the pain associated with losing a pet. After the death of a pet, it is normal to experience feelings of sadness and depression. For some, this feeling remains with them for years after the death of a pet. Everyone grieves differently, and it is a highly personal experience. While there is no wrong or right way to grieve, there are ways to help ease the pain. One way to help with the pain is to commemorate your pet. By honoring your pet's life you can help ensure that its memory lives on.

Similar to the death of a human, a pet's life should be cherished and remembered. Holding a memorial ceremony, or funeral is a good way to help loved ones and family members come to terms with the loss of a pet. Young children can also help by making photo collages of their favorite memories with their pet. If you choose to bury your pet at home, encourage visitors to place a treat, toy or other special objects to be buried with your pet.

You might want to consider including a pet memorial or headstone for your pet regardless if you plan to bury them at home or in a pet cemetery. Pet monuments and granite pet markers are custom made. Black granite is a respectful and sophisticated material of choice for monuments and headstones. Black granite is dark in color, and are polished to a mirror-like finish. The engraving on black granite appears white, which stands out against the dark background. Pet monuments as well as head markers can easily be engraved to include your pet's name, an uplifting message to remember your pet, and also their picture.

If burial is not an option or against city bylaws, cremation offers pet owners another option. Decorative urns can be used to store your pet's ashes. Urns can be made out of almost any material. A popular choice for pet owners is the wood pet urn. Wooden pet urns can be ordered to your specifications to store ashes for all different size pets. Urns come in different wood finishes and grains, and many can have your pet's picture laser-etched onto its side. There are also urns that have a memory box on one side and the urn on the other side. It can be filled with your pet's photo, favorite toy or other memorable item. This is a tasteful way to preserve the memory of your pet. Another type of urn is a cremation marker that is made of granite. The base is hollowed out to the hold ashes of your beloved pet.

If you find it too painful to keep your pet's ashes at home, another alternative would be to scatter its ashes in a garden and then plant flowers in the soil. This way, your pet will symbolically help provide the foundation for new life. You can place a head marker or monument to serve as a memorial keepsake in the garden to remember your pet.
 

Maryann Piccini shows us how she likes pets at Best Pet Kennels. Here she focused on Pet Memorials that can be found at: http://www.bestpetkennels.com/Pet-Memorials.html. She has grown up with dogs and a variety of other pets. Along with her children, they raised a Seeing Eye German Shepherd, Jenna and prepared her for the "Big Seeing Eye School". Presently, the family care for their tea-cup yorkie, CoCo, whom they spoil with pet beds and a new Dogger stroller from her website. Visit often as there are always new and exciting products being added.

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How to Deal with Depression When Mourning the Death of a Loved One

By Lou LaGrand

Are you filled with despair and emptiness? Has life lost its meaning for you, and no one could possibly understand your feelings? Do you believe there is no future without your loved one? It is likely, if you are feeling this way that you are suffering from what is often called normal reactive depression. You are down and reacting because something or someone you cherish is gone.

We are not talking here about clinical or biochemical depression, although reactive depression can evolve into the clinical type. Depression from the loss of a loved one usually does not require medication, although in some instances it is prescribed, and is useful on a temporary basis. Here is what you need to know.

1. Not everyone gets depressed after the death of a loved one. It is perfectly normal not to suffer depression as it is to have to deal with it. However, after the death of a loved one, thoughts and attitudes often trigger loneliness and resulting depression, which occurs early in grieving. It features confusion, little motivation, altered self-esteem, lack of meaning, reduced functioning in one's social circle, insomnia, and low energy.

2. If you are depressed, acknowledge it. Describe it in detail, where it hurts, and what it feels like. "What is the message or messages this emotion is delivering to me?" is an important question to address. What do I need to accept? To let go of? The refusal to accept the loss is often a root cause of depression. Depending on what you believe about your depression will lead to choices that either help you manage it, or prolong it.

3. Talk to your best friend. Remember, the more you isolate yourself--and this is what depression tends to do--the more you will increase emotional and physical stress. Saying how you really feel (especially what you fear and how angry you may be) to someone you are confident of being with, is an excellent antidote for your grief and to deal with depression. And, forgiving yourself and others, will also release depressed feelings.

4. Use a universal treatment for depression: exercise. Physical activity will have an affect on brain chemistry and help in the management of depression. Take 10-15 minute walks, preferably with someone. This will activate your endorphins and affect mood.

5. Find a symbol of comfort and guidance. Create a symbol that will bring back loving memories of the person who died and/or of your Higher Power who is with you at all times, and will help you through your great loss. Keep the symbol in a place where you will see it often and use it as a cue to think of loving memories--and to accept the new conditions of life.

6. Are deep seated negative beliefs (I can't go on alone, I'm being punished, I'm never going to feel better, I'm worthless, etc.) adding to your depression? Regain your power. Take it back from those beliefs that say you are less and not more. Believe you can get well. Create opposing affirmations and keep repeating them throughout the day.

7. Start learning to tolerate uncertainty. This can be accomplished by turning toward your spiritual and symbolic beliefs. You will increase your options by letting your spiritual beliefs guide you and strengthen your faith that you will get through this hurtful loss. Know what you can and cannot control. You can control how you deal with major changes; you cannot control what others say and do or what has already happened.

8. Let possibility educate you out of depression. Here is where your imagination can help in a very positive way. Are you open to exploring the numerous choices there are for dealing with loss? Begin to learn about them from others, support groups, readings, and the experts. By creating options for dealing with fear, anger, guilt, and negative thoughts, you can change your view of what lies ahead.

9. Check your eating habits and whether you have an insufficiency of amino acids. Protein consumption at all three meals can affect neurotransmitters and your energy levels. Reduce carbohydrate (not complex carbs), sugar, alcohol, and fast food consumption, and increase

fruits and vegetables. The way you feel physically will add to or detract from depression.

Whenever you feel depression creeping back in, immediately ask yourself this key question, "What are my choices here?" If you are burying your feelings and not facing them, depression is a common result.

Refuse to withdraw from life; make connections and express your feelings to a support group or to your best friend. If your depressive symptoms go on for more than a couple of months, be sure to consult a professional counselor. You can get through this darkness and into the light by taking action early (don't wait for it to worsen) to deal with this pervasive emotion.

Dr. LaGrand is a grief counselor and the author of eight books, the most recent, the popular Love Lives On: Learning from the Extraordinary Encounters of the Bereaved. He is known world-wide for his research on the Extraordinary Experiences of the bereaved (after-death communication phenomena) and is one of the founders of Hospice of the St. Lawrence Valley, Inc. His free monthly ezine website is http://www.extraordinarygriefexperiences.com.
 

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This Awesome Urn Will Turn You into a Tree After You Die

By Teodora Zareva
 

You don't find many designers working in the funeral business thinking about more creative ways for you to leave this world (and maybe they should be). However, the product designer Gerard Moline has combined the romantic notion of life after death with an eco solution to the dirty business of the actual, you know, transition.  His Bios Urn is a biodegradable urn made from coconut shell, compacted peat and cellulose and inside it contains the seed of a tree. Once your remains have been placed into the urn, it can be planted and then the seed germinates and begins to grow. You even have the choice to pick the type of plant you would like to become, depending on what kind of planting space you prefer.  I, personally, would much rather leave behind a tree than a tombstone.  Editor's Note: The Bios Urn is a patented design of Estudimoline, the design company of Gerard Moline, a Catalan artist and product designer who designed Bio Urn for animals in 1999. http://patentados.com/invento/urna-biodegradable.html

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In Home Hospice Care: How It Helps

By Sarah E Reilly

Hospice services may offer help in the form of medical care, assistance and safety, and often spiritual and emotional support for both the patient and the caregiver. This may also include the participation of other members of the family. Hospice care is offered by a lot of organizations, including hospitals and private practices. It provides the necessary help to manage the details and challenges of caring for a sick friend or member of the family.  Some of the most common hospice services may include:  - Medical care focusing on managing pain - Bringing medicines and equipment when needed - Counselling and Guidance on difficult issues like closure - Voluntary assistance for making meals or running errands - Counselling and support prior to death; and after death (for the family)  One reason to choose in home hospice care is that many patients would like to spend their final days at home. With this service, family members can stay close and take care of their loved one. A hospice team member will come by several times a week and see what is needed. These teams usually consist of a physician, nurses, a social worker, specialists in palliative medicine, a priest or spiritual advisor, nurse assistants and volunteers. The extended group would also include the pharmacist, psychiatric specialists and other therapists. They are available on call 24/7.  Hospice Services are available to almost anyone in need. To become eligible, however, a patient may fall under a certain medical condition category, such as an incurable or terminal illness, and diagnosed by a medical professional to have six months or less to live. A signed form from the primary physician and doctor on the hospice team is needed to start care. Of course, it is difficult to estimate life span - some people live longer than expected and continue receiving care. If people get better, they can stop getting this assistance. Hospice care is available to everyone regardless of religion, gender, diagnosis, sexual orientation, or even the ability to pay. These services are covered by Medicare and Medicaid programs. Quite a few private insurance companies also pay for these services - make sure to check if it will be covered and what services are included. Hospice programs will also be able to provide information on coverage.  The aim of in home hospice care is to bring palliative care to terminally ill people. It is a way to help those approaching death have confidence, dignity, and peace. Hospice care brings humane charity and compassion to those in need. Proper care usually helps people live longer and experience fewer side effects from chemotherapy and other medications. Other helpful activities like physiotherapy, art, music, and massage therapy, are offered to patients to keep them engaged. The attending physician or nurse will be able to help with finding in home care or a facility close by. You may also search online to find a reputable provider of hospice care.  Sarah Reilly provides in Home Hospice care and Hospice Services. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Sarah_E_Reilly Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/7234832
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How to Explain To Your Children The Facts About Dying

By Amy Twain
One of the best things you could do to prepare your children for the prospect of death is to discuss about it with them ahead of time. It is important that you teach your kids that dying is merely an aspect of one's life and at one point or another you and your children would be faced with death.

So it is essential to help them be comfortable with the issue. Some cultures in fact welcome and embrace the subject of dying and can see it as an opportunity for new life and re-birth. Your approach to the subject may differ a little depending on your spiritual beliefs. It is very significant that you really consider your emotional and spiritual beliefs about dying and death and come to entirely embrace them before even opening the topic with your kids.

This would assist you facilitate a more clear-cut and impacting discussion when the time comes to converse about death and dying.

Here are some tips for introducing the topic with your children.

1.) Acknowledge your own emotions and feelings. In order for your kids to accept dying, you must first come to terms with it. Take some time to evaluate and examine your own emotions and be more comfortable with the topic before introducing it with your children. Children are very sensitive and they may likely to pick up on your emotional cues about death, hence, if you are not comfortable with the subject, they are likely to be, too.

2.) Try talking with your children about the Cycle of Life. Bear in mind to keep the conversation light and easy initially, offering your children adequate opportunities to ask questions. Consider talking about dying and death with them at a time that you could naturally mix and blend it into part of your conversation. Consider an instance when the leaves change colors in the fall, and then die off only to grow back during spring time.

3.) Be honest and open about feelings. It is very helpful that you let your children know and understand that death could be sad, and let them know that you're also sad if that happens.
Several parents have a natural instinct to guard and shield their children from the grief and sorrow related with dying, but this could actually be harmful. It is essential that kids learn how to express themselves honestly and openly and let them learn how to release their feelings and emotions if necessary.

Instead of focusing on the emotional or spiritual aspects of dying and death, they might want to know more about the technicalities, such as how a person is buried and where you will go. Just remember when teaching children about dying and death, their initial reactions or responses might be very different or far from what you expect.

Consider that this is perfectly normal and natural. Address and answer every question as honestly as you can and your kids would come to have a healthy understanding of the dying process and death.

The author of this article, Amy Twain, is a Self Improvement Coach who has been successfully coaching and guiding clients for many years. Amy recently published a home study course on how to have an improved self esteem. Alternatively click here for Amazon's Kindle Edition.

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Death and Dying and the Therapeutic Relationship

By Ashley Sybil Davis

Our society has developed the belief that death and illness should be avoided and feared. The denial that death is real and can happen has caused people to regard illness and death as something that is happening to them, rather than a natural process that can be embraced without anxiety and suffering. Our thoughts and perspective on death and illness are based in fear rather than viewed as a possible opening to an experience that can offer new learning, challenges, growth and positive insight into our existence and ourselves. The denial that death is real and can happen has caused people to regard illness and death as something that is happening to them, rather than a natural process that can be embraced without anxiety and suffering.

Upon awareness of a terminal illness, Kubler-Ross outlines different stages that a patient goes through in response to this new knowledge. Often these defense and/or coping mechanisms help a patient manage with the stresses of facing his or her own mortality. These phases include the first stage, denial and isolation; the second stage, anger; the third stage, bargaining; the fourth stage, depression; and the fifth stage, acceptance (1969). The stages are defined as being consecutive, in which hope is usually present in one form or another. In the final stage of acceptance, there is no more hope in finding a cure and the patient may not want any more visitors. A person will have finished their unfinished business and there is a sense that the patient has reached a feeling of peace (Kubler-Ross, 1969). Another indicator of the final stage is the role of hope. Once hope disappears, often the patient is close to death.

Stephen Levine, who has also worked extensively with dying people, went a step further with the stages outlined by Kubler-Ross, making a point that these stages are really more about changes in the mind. "These stages, instead of being swallowed whole as an absolute reality, can rather be used as a means of focusing, a way of encouraging recognition of the impermanence of all things so that one may go beyond seeing others as what they are becoming and instead experience them as they are. To touch in the living truth of their being, to share in the reality that goes beyond death" (Levine, 1982, p. 234). Many individuals have outlined the different stages that humans' experience when faced with their ultimate fate of death. In facing death, Levine (1982) defines the mind as a rollercoaster, changing thoughts in one given day. During the evaluation process, stages are revisited more than one time.

Levine adds a spiritual dynamic to his view of the stages of dying that Kubler-Ross outlined. He refers to her stages as psychologically based, connected to thoughts, feelings and emotions. He adds: "The difference between the psychological and the spiritual is that the spiritual relates not only to the contents but to the space in which these contents are unfolding. The five stages deal with death as though it were outside of ourselves. Perhaps real acceptance is the first time we take death within. Where death is not the enemy but instead becomes the great teacher that directs us toward our fear and encourages us to relate to it instead of from it. Death's teaching is to relate to your life as a whole rather than some fractured reality from which you wish to escape." (Levine, 1982, p. 242) Spirituality is often interwoven in the dying process regardless of previous spiritual development.

As I have seen in my office, a person can feel stable in a particular belief system and with a diagnosis or when an opportunity to examine death arises, many beliefs are immediately re-evaluated. I have had the opportunity to work as a Chaplain in a Community Hospital, and I have worked extensively with people who have been recently diagnosed with a life threatening illness and/or know someone close to them who are going through the process. I believe that everyone has a different response to his or her particular life circumstances. The therapeutic process can be very helpful, supportive and beneficial to feel and move through emotions as they arise. Therapy can also be a place to process what may remain unfinished.

As a therapist, it is my job to hold space for another's process rather than to fix, heal and/or deny ones experience. Through all feelings of grief, anger, shock, denial and acceptance, I hold the space for choice in the midst of challenging circumstances. Sitting with another human being in this process is humbling, powerful and reminds me how the role of choice occurs up until our last breath.

Sources:

Levine, S. (1997). A year to live: how to live this year as if it were your last. New York: Bell Tower.
Levine, S. (1982). Who dies: an investigation of conscious living and conscious dying. New York: Anchor Books.
Kubler-Ross, E. (1969). On death and dying: what the dying have to teach doctors, nurses, clergy and their own families. London: The Macmillan Company.
Kubler-Ross, E. (1974). Questions & answers on death and dying. New York: Simon & Schuster.

Ashley is a Licensed Professional Counselor in the state of Colorado and has a private practice in Boulder & Denver working with adolescents, adults and families. She is a Certified Gestalt Psychotherapist and is trained in EMDR and trauma resolution. Ashley also has extensive training and experience doing spiritual counseling with clients. She combines her training in psychotherapy and spirituality to bring a unique style to her psychotherapy and intutitive sessions. For more information, please go to Boulder Integrative Therapies at http://www.boulderintegrativetherapies.com or call us at 303-919-4149.

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Eco-Friendly Funerals: Ashes to Ashes and Dust to Dust

by Lee Power

People are choosing to live an eco-friendly or green life, so it comes as no surprise that they choose to have an eco-friendly or green funeral. An eco friendly funeral may be the deceased's choice or the bereaved family may take their own initiative. a green funeral ensures that the body decomposes naturally and completely and it becomes one with nature. This adheres to the adage "ashes to ashes and dust to dust". Some people may think of it as a new age fad, but in fact, it is returning to age-old practices that our ancestors practiced.

If you would like to plan an eco-friendly or green funeral, you will need to locate a funeral home that offers green funerals as part of their services. They may be specialists or a green funeral may be among the different services they offer. There are a number of green funeral homes in the country. They offer complete services as well as a burial in the woodlands. This would mean that no separate place is marked out as a cemetery. Instead, the body is buried in natural environment, with local trees and green vegetation around it.

An eco-friendly or green funeral turns out much less inexpensive when compared to the now traditional funerals. One of the first aspects of a green funeral is that the body is not embalmed. This ensures that no toxic chemicals used during the embalming process are let into the sewers. The next step is to choose an only wood or cardboard casket that will decompose completely with time. The eco-friendly caskets do not have any metal parts. Some families may also decide to bury the body without the casket, with only a shroud to cover the body. The next step would be to avoid a vault so that the casket and its contents decompose naturally with time.

A woodland burial is a complete eco-friendly or green funeral. In most incidents, a sapling is planted to mark the hand-dug grave that is slowly taken over by the natural vegetation around. You may opt for a simple headstone if you wish to.

If you're searching for a more eco-friendly method to arrange for the management of your remains after passing away, think about the following five alternatives:

•Bios Urn: While using the remains of cremation and thus not actually eco-friendly, Bios Urns enable ashes to be combined with the pre-packed earth of a ready-to-plant tree or shrub seedling.
•Alkaline hydrolysis: This procedure may seem a bit industrialized and consequently environmentally damaging, however, it is in reality probably the most environmentally-friendly answer to dealing with human remains to be developed. Quite simply a person's remains are immersed in a tank of chemical substances which break down tissue very quickly and change bone tissue into a floury compound.
•Corpse-eating mushrooms: Fungus grows on rotting organic substance, making it a perfect solution as a way to naturally eliminate human is still.
•Green burials: The conventional burial isn't necessarily harmful to the natural environment, it's only the additions we have created like complex embalming procedures and "secured" burial containers. By choosing a more naturally degradable casket and requiring that morticians stay away from embalming in favor of other possibilities, you may still have a "traditional" burial with out it becoming bad for the environment.
•Donate to science: No matter if for use by a school of medicine or even for observation at a human body farm, giving one's body to scientific research isn't just environmentally friendly.

Living an eco-friendly life implies needing to take into account the environmental effects of how we deal with dying. If you are seriously interested in learning to be an eco-friendly person, then you should think about environmentally safer options to conventional methods of dealing with human remains by visiting Funeral Blues - a store dedicated to helping you choose! http://funeralblues.org

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Medical Ethics: A Brief Overview of Euthanasia Practices

By Rima Hammoudi

People who work in a healthcare setting are often confronted with ethical questions pertaining to medical practices. It is true that most healthcare professionals are not required to adopt a particular moral stance on every single ethical issue. But still, it is important for them, and everyone else for that matter, to think about these situations, and to contemplate their own moral positioning from an objective standpoint.

One such issue is that of euthanasia. Readers must note that this article does not claim to provide any answers or suggest any definitive ethical standpoints regarding the issue of euthanasia, but rather; this article aims to provide a brief overview of said issue.

Euthanasia is a form of terminating a life with the intent of relieving that life from pain or suffering. Also referred to as "mercy killing," euthanasia is in large part considered illegal in all parts of the world, with the exception of Belgium, the Netherlands, and Luxembourg. Although these countries have officially legalized euthanasia, there are many stipulations and conditions that must be adhered to, and the legality of such a practice is determined on a case-by-case basis.

The differing legal status of euthanasia across countries speaks to the inconclusiveness of its moral ranking. Students aspiring for a career in healthcare will likely come across health courses that touch on ethical issues such as this one. Coming to a conclusion is rarely the goal of such courses, and instead the focus is to have students explore varying perspectives on ethical quandaries.

Voluntary and non-voluntary euthanasia are the two main forms of euthanasia that are most commonly subject to debate. Voluntary euthanasia occurs when a person assists someone in ending their life painlessly because continuing to live would involve prolonged suffering. This form of euthanasia is voluntary because consent was given by the person whose life would end, and that person has actively communicated their wish to die rather than to live.

Non-voluntary euthanasia occurs someone practices mercy killing on an individual who has not given overt consent to do so because they are physically unable to. For example, terminally ill infants or people in permanent vegetative states are unable to give their consent to having their lives terminated, thus consent is made on their behalf (typically by family members and physicians). The notion is that if in fact these individuals had the ability to give their consent, they would prefer to end their life rather than suffer a life of constant pain.

The ethical debate concerning euthanasia is a complicated and long-lived one. Regardless of whether or not you work in a healthcare setting or have had healthcare training, coming to some sort of definitive ethical position is no easy task, and more often than not people are left hovering somewhere between the pro side and the con side.

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Find Peace of Mind With Living Will Forms

By River C.

Preparation of a living will guarantees that your family and loved ones will respect your wishes in the event of catastrophic injury or illness. You cannot be too young or too fit to prepare a living will, and the easiest, most economical way to prepare the document is to use a living will form.

Also known as an "advanced medical directive," a living will specifies your wishes respecting medical procedures in case you become incapacitated and cannot speak for yourself. A living will instructs your family what to do if a physician or surgeon recommends risky procedures or use of life-support systems. In your living will, you may appoint a loved one to act on your behalf, but you also simply may declare your wishes, stipulating that you wish no proxy or surrogate. Most importantly, your living will must be as detailed and specific as possible, because any treatment not included in the document becomes a matter for your next-of-kin to decide. Living will forms assure your thoroughness.

You should discuss your wishes and prepare your living will long before you require any kind of medical treatment. You may enlist an attorney's, a clergyman's, or a patient advocate's assistance as you complete living will forms. Most hospitals either have staff who specialize in advanced medical directives or can refer you to professionals well-qualified to help.

Living will forms help you remember the three essentials.

As you prepare your instructions, make certain of three essentials: First, emphasize the importance of your family's compliance with your directions; your living will is binding on them, and you should reconcile all disagreements as you negotiate its provisions. Second, make certain your document complies with the laws in your state; loving will forms generally follow or refer you to applicable laws. Third, make certain you date and sign the document in the presence of two trustworthy witnesses. You do not want implementation of your wishes delayed because you missed a minor technicality.

Living will forms cover the most difficult decisions.

Remember that your living will instructs your family, loved ones, and physicians about what to do if you suffer serious injury or illness; it guarantees they will hear and obey your voice. Using living will forms, you assure that you cover issues about tissue and organ donation: are you willing to donate your vital organs to transplant patients or to science? The forms also cover blood transfusions and the use of medications: will you accept a donor's blood, and will you allow the use of medications with severe side effects or experimental drugs? What kinds of surgery will you allow the doctors to perform; do you absolutely forbid your doctors to perform particular surgeries?

The most difficult decisions involve the use of life support: do you wish to be kept alive on a respirator; and, if so, do you wish to continue receiving food and fluids while machines support your respiration? Under what circumstances would you want doctors or family to "pull the plug"? Although these discussions may cause you and your family great pain and anguish, you more properly can reconcile these issues in the peace and privacy of your own home than you would in the confusion of the intensive care unit. Using a living will form, you gain assurance that doctors will follow your decisions.

Hence, the preparation of a living will ensure that you are respected and well cared for, in the event of an untoward event. Living will forms give you the ease and simplicity of getting a living will done within a matter of minutes, literally. To check out the templates and get more information on wills, visit our website NOW!!

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Green Burials - Natural Transitions

By Carrie T Roberts

When America was young, formal funerals were inside the home and the dead were either wrapped in a shroud or placed in a pine box and buried in the local church cemetery.

With the Civil War, this process changed due to the fact that more people were dying far away from home and embalming became a quickly accepted practice.

What is Embalming?

It is the process that involves removing all the bodies' fluids and replacing them with up to 6 gallons of formalin (a combination of chemicals that are used for preservation). Embalming does not preserve the body indefinitely. Formalin has been proven to be a health risk in the funeral homes.

Other negative ways that conventional burials impact our environment:

1.Cemeteries, in general, use large quantities of water, weed killers and pesticides to keep the landscape attractive.
2.Vaults are usually required to keep the ground level and sturdy; 1.6 tons of concrete is used for one vault.
3.Although less resource are used overall, Cremation definitely burns fossil fuels and the process can also emit into the atmosphere: sulfur dioxides, carbon monoxide, mercury, nitrogen oxides and other heavy metals.
4.In the United States; over 2 million caskets are made each and every year. Almost 2/3 of these are made from metal.
5.Manufacturers of caskets are on the Environmental Protective Agencies (top 50) list of producers of hazardous waste material.

Ten acres of conventional cemetery will not only hold your loved ones remains, but also: wood from caskets to build 40 for more houses; over 900 tons of steel that caskets also use; 20,000 tons of concrete and enough formalin to fill an above ground pool.

This all that being said and everyones high concern about the environmental and economic issues, are you aware that you have holistic, natural end of life options?

Here is where "green burials" give you the choice to forgo the enormous financial costs of a traditional funeral and burial (which can cost you close to $10,000); but also to follow nature and allow the body to return to the earth as it was originally intended.

Boulder, Colorado has become the leader in embracing, supporting and encouraging this movement of "green burials" (also known as "eco-friendly"). There is no embalming (which means no harmful chemicals are used) and a loved ones body can rest peacefully in a shroud or casket that is biodegradable. Viewing the body is once again performed in the home; where the atmosphere is familiar and more comfortable.

Some resources that you might find helpful in your decision making process:

•Natural Transitions is a not for profit center, founded in 2003, that provides valuable resources, information and educates one on the green and holistic way to approach the end of life on earth.

The main two ways to educate the public is by their quarterly magazine "Natural Transitions" (which is available in print and also available via an e-file that is easily downloadable).They also provide the community with information through presentations, training and support for grieving families.Training sessions are attended by lay men and professional caregivers alike.

1.Nature's Casket makes caskets that are simple, elegant, affordable and most important - 100% biodegradable (including the nails, oil and glue used). Nature's Casket works very closely with the Colorado Carbon Fund and also donates $10 to this fund for each casket sold.

2.The Green Burial Council can be reached at www.greenburialcouncil.org and will provide you with more information about having a green burial.

3.In addition, www.greenburials.org provides you with valuable information, current news and links you with other companies and websites that you might find useful.

Below is a list of some current green cemeteries in the United States:

GreenSprings Natural Cemetery in New York
Stellmantown Cemetery in New Jersey
Ohio has 43 acres at Foxfield Preserve
Glendale Memorial Nature Preserve in Florida has 350 acres.
Florida also offers Eternal Rest Memories Park
South Carolina's Ramsey Creek Preserve has 32 acres
Cedarbrook Burial Ground in Maine
Honey Creek Woodlands in Georgia
And Colorado is constructing the Prairie Wilderness Cemetery

Remember, your hands are not tied. Although there might not be a green burial ground near you; start an open and honest dialogue with your local cemetery and explain your wishes. Go over with them your choices and, do not allow the majority (at this time) of what people are opting for influence your decision as to whether to have a natural, earth friendly or traditional funeral and burial for yourself or your loved ones.

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Hospice Services: Providing Peace of Mind

By Archie Taylor

Death is an inevitable part of life. Even if everyone knows it will happen eventually, no amount of preparation can ease grief when it's time to say goodbye. How will you let your ailing relatives spend their last days? Most people turn to hospice care services. If you are considering admitting a loved one to a good hospice facility, here are some useful information you need to know.

All about Hospice Care

Hospice care is a service handling "end-of-life" cases. Families who want to admit their loved one to a stay-in hospice must have the certification of the doctor that the patient has a few months left to live. There is no set rule, but the standard timeline most facilities acknowledge is six months.
Hospice services may be administered at home, in a nursing home, or other facilities- depending on the preference of the patients or their families. A team consisting of physicians, social workers, nurses, and assistants is responsible for giving the best care to the patient.

Families can now get their much needed break when their loved one is admitted in a hospice facility. Plus, they can have peace of mind because they know skilled professionals will take care of their loved ones. Certified nurses and attendants will take over simple and complex responsibilities of daily care, such as bathing, administering medication, and assisting in pain management. Hospice services are available 24 hours a day and provide immediate response in the event of a patient emergency. The staff in a hospice may set up the medical equipment in the patient's room for those getting in-home services.

One advantage of admitting a relative in a hospice is it makes sure patients live comfortably and with dignity during their final days. Hospices guarantee quality comfort and medical care not only to the patients but to their families as well. They even have programs that have special supportive services for the patients by addressing their physical, spiritual, emotional, and social needs.

Who can get hospice services?

You can find many stay-in hospices for patients whose pain management needs can't be addressed at home. There are also facilities offering this service to those who are adjusting from the hospital to the hospice at home.

Hospice Facilities and Amenities

To provide comfort and guarantee the well-being of the patient, most hospices feature private rooms and amenities such as outdoor terraces and kitchens. These give patients privacy and a relaxed environment. You can find hospices at convenient central locations. This is so their families may easily visit them anytime.

Part of hospice care includes a counseling team that will support family and friends during emotional and spiritual crisis. The team provides individual counseling and assists caregivers and patients on stress management. They help patients and families deal with their grief and prepare them for the passing of their loved one. Here are some other hospice services the counseling team provides:

- Have meaningful discussions that resolve issues between patients and their families
- Serve as an outlet for family member to express grief and share bereavement issues
- Educate friends and family members about end-of-life issues
- Provide special counseling for the patients' children
- Check up on the family one year after the patient's death and provide counseling if needed

Archie Taylor works for a hospice care facility and familiar with different hospice services.

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