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Sunday, July 19, 2009

Why Do Deceased Loved Ones Visit Us?

Our deceased loved ones want us to know that they are okay and that they are still concerned for our welfare. One woman told me she had a visit the night of her mother’s funeral. Her mother had been ill for a long time and suffered greatly before she passed. The woman was sitting in her bedroom when she audibly heard the voice of her mother say, “I just wanted to let you know I’m fine now.”

It seems that many deceased loved ones continue to linger around their family. I’m not sure why some choose to make their presence known while others do not, but perhaps Vickie Majors’ story will shed some light.

My father died in 1990. We were so close that I just knew he would come to me. Many years passed and I gave up on the idea of hearing from him. When I was going through my divorce in 2000, he finally came to visit. I was in a deep depression. Most of my inspiration comes to me when I sleep or when I am slightly awake in the early hours of the morning, and that was when I heard my father’s voice. He was at the foot of my bed and looked just like he did before he got sick. He appeared to be in the form of a mirage or a hologram. I asked him why he hadn't visited me earlier. He said that I hadn't needed him before. He wanted me to know that he was fine and that I was going to be fine too. He said he was always close by, watching over Mama and me. He said he was proud of me and that he loved me.

His visit brought me tremendous peace during that very difficult time in my life. I’ve known of his presence since then and have heard his voice, but have never seen his image again. And now, as I write this I can still feel his presence. Sometimes I experience a tingling down the whole right side of my body. It grows stronger, and at times it will immobilize me and my hair stands on end. I remain still while the sensation subsides, then I speak to my dad and acknowledge his presence. I also try to listen to what he is trying to tell me. I feel so incredibly loved and blessed after one of these episodes. It doesn't happen very often but I wish it would. I LOVE to feel his presence.


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70 comments:

Michael said...

i'm sure i possibly heard my mothers voice saying 'MICHAEL' very slowly one night while i was in bed.She passed away 3 months ago.

michele said...

my mon died on 12/26/2010 on 1/3/2011 i heard her yell my name michele

Yvonne Perry said...

I find it very comforting to know that our "deceased" loved ones are still alive in another dimension and that they watch over us.

Judi Webb said...

My husband of 28 years passed away from esophageal cancer August 13th. Last Saturday night while I was asleep I felt something touch my hand. The touch made me feel like he was inside of me. I tried to scream and he said, It's ok Ju (he is the only one who called me that), it's me." I then did scream and woke up. He was of course no longer in the bed with me. It did not comfort me if that was his intention, it spooked me.

Yvonne Perry said...

Judi, I'm sure your husband did not mean to frighten you. If you do not want him to interact with you in this manner, just tell him. Spirits typically honor such requests.

Jean Bloom-smith said...

My husband of 30 years passed away january 13, 2011 from cancer. I have attempted to move on with my life and have experienced the usual reservations of doing so but I am trying. For months now I have not felt the presence of my love and recently I have been going through some personal issues and am having to make some hard decisions. Last night as I slept I was awoken by a familiar smell his cologne Azzaro there is none in my home after awakening I sat up in bed and standing very clearly was my late husband smile and all. He didnt speak but I felt words if that makes sense? "Red (he called me that when he wanted to get a point across to me) you have earned the right - you shouldn't have to try so hard it's up to them."them he was gone no smell no smile just a feeling of absolute love

Yvonne Perry said...

What a beautiful story, Jean! It must have been very comforting to see and "hear" your beloved. My grandfather came to me in a dream once when I was having a time with my teenage daughter. He gave me a sentence of advice (it was communicated telepathically like your husband did with you). I heeded his advice and the situation resolved within days.

itsMAYOR said...

I live in a studio apartment where furnitures are in close proximity to each other - I can pretty much see everything while lying down in my bed. This morning, while I was half asleep, I turned to my left and saw what seemed like a mirage of my little brother sitting on my sofa. Even though I could not see his eyes, nose, or lips - just an outline of his body - I knew he was watching me. I went back to sleep and when I woke up, I immediately called my dad who told me my aunt had a dream about my brother too. However, my experience was not in my dreams, but in real life. This has never happened to me before and it has been over 15 years since my brother passed away from a drowning accident. I only dream about my brother or see symbols that remind me of him. I am 29 years old and currently going through one of the most difficult emotional and spiritual periods in my life. From the outside things are great but deep inside I feel alone and maybe my brother made his presence known to help me put life in perspective again. He was 4 years old when he died which broke not only my heart but the hearts of my dad, stepmom, and entire family. I feel somewhat peaceful - more more so have an urge to fulfill my forgotten potential in ode of my little brother. Your post inspired me because I Googled if anyone has ever experienced what I experienced this morning. It is nice to know we are not alone.

Yvonne Perry said...

There's always a reason our loved ones come to us in spirit--they care about us and are there to help lift us up when we need an energetic boost. ItsMayor, thank you for sharing your story about how your little brother came to you. I hope you feel encouraged and will follow through with your goals to find joy in life.

leeann61111 said...

3 weeks ago I had a spiritual experience with my grandmother, who died 24 years ago. I was tucking a cover on the sofa, and on my last tuck, my grandmother entered my body. I immediately knew it was her. With a light, sweet voice she said to me," I am in heaven,I'm Ok,I no longer have (earthly) pain, you will be ok, and you will be here(heaven).Then she was gone. It was her, and I was left with a feeling of peace. I know she is with me now. She visited me when I had an extremely stressful, life changing meeting that was to occur in same week. She came to let me know she cares about me. It was my grandmother. I haven't doubted since it happened. I have no reason too.

Yvonne Perry said...

Thank you for sharing your story, leeann61111. What a comforting message from your grandmother. she is certainly with you in spirit and is expecting you when you arrive on the other side. You are right; there is no reason to doubt that it was her.

jefferson prince said...

people all over the world always wish they could speak with their late ones when they die.When my husband died i search on how i could talk to my late husband,i found only one man luckily on the Internet,because somebody testify on how he has helped her to communicate with her late mother.The woman dropped Doctor Jefferson email address on the site,so i contacted him.As God will have it i equally talk to my late husband,it was so real.I will equally drop his email address on this site doctorjeffersontemple@gmail.com

Yvonne Perry said...

Thank you for that information, Jefferson. I appreciate your taking time to share with us.

Lindy said...

my 26 yr old son died suddenly. he was an officer in the Marines training to become a fightor pilot. A nite after he died, I heard "mama" twice in a weak young sounding voice. The next nite, it was about 2:00am. Husband was asleep, I was wide awake, the house was silent. Suddenly, from a room away, I heard MY SON's VOICE clearly say 2 or 3 words but I could not make them out. A few nights later I was in his room. I asked him to make a sound if he could hear me. Immediately, the closet creaked loudly. I asked again, it did it again. This happened 5 times directly after I asked. Then I felt a presence very strongly and could see a slight illumination but of no shape. I started to cry and had my eyes closed. Suddenly, it felt as if 2 fingers poked me in each eye gently. That is my son. He was always playing with me and picking me up and making me scream. The closet hasn't creaked since and it's been 3 months. He called me mama.

Yvonne Perry said...

Lindy, thank you for leaving a comment here. As you can tell from others who have shared on this post, it is common for our deceased loved ones to let us know they are okay--especially in the weeks and months following their departure. They typically move on after you get the message they wanted you to have, but they still drop by and check on us from time to time. While they don't usually hang out in the earth plane (unless they have agreed to be your guide), they are easy to connect with by just calling their names or thinking about them. This creates a signal, an energetic vibration that they can sense and respond to.

Thanks again for dropping by and commenting.

Yvonne

Unknown said...

My mom passed away January 04, 2012. About an hour ago my son Who is 21 came flying out of his run crying like I honestly have never seen. When I asked him what was wrong he said grandma was just in his room. All I could do was hold him and let him know how fortunate he was to receive that visit. I wait for such a visit... He helped me to care for my mom. When she passed we moved an hour and a half from our home. I'm so glad she knows where we are...

Unknown said...

You talked about a guide, if they agree to be your guide.? What does this mean?

Yvonne Perry said...

I'm also glad Grandma visited your son! You were wise to comfort him and let him know that this is not an unusual occurrence or something to be afraid of. Your son is fortunate that he is able to see in the spirit realm.
Our loved ones check on us a lot more often than we might imagine.
I have learned to recognize my ancestors presence by the signs they give me. My aunt has visited about a dozen times since she passed in 2009. She is always welcome.

Lou Aldeguer said...

Yea, what did you mean by "if they agree to be your spirit guide"?

Yvonne Perry said...

Lou, if a deceased loved one and you are working together on soul development, you may both be in body at the same time, or you may both be dis-incarnated at the same time. Or, one may be in body while the other serves as a helping spirit or guide from the other side. These partnerships are agreed upon at a soul level, so it's not likely that you can choose a deceased loved one to be your guide (they may have other work to do in the afterlife). If they are your guide, you will be aware of their presence a lot more often than just a brief stop-by every now and then.

I hope that helps.

Chrissy Marshall said...

I lost a family friend about a month ago. He was like a grandfather to me, and was a huge part of my heart and life. He had Alzheimer's for about six years, and was really suffering towards the end. I have always had strange intuition and, as you mentioned, I discovered my father is one of my guides (he passed away when I was little and is often with me). When my friend started to to fade with the Alzheimer's I could always tell when it was the real him and when it wasnt, as crazy as it may sound. Not only were we close on many levels, but lately I have felt as though we have always been connected on a deep level I cannot explain. Having this ability allowed me to cope better than others until the last year or so. Before he died, I had the strange sensation he was with me, even though he hadnt passed yet. I really struggled at the end because I repeatedly tried to tell him (in my mind) to let go, but the thought of him doing so also broke my heart.

The night he passed, I was having a hard time falling asleep. All of a sudden, I saw his face. He was surrounded by light and looked so so happy. He was beaming, and told me he loved me, and that it will be okay. Then he hugged me, which was the weirdest sensation until I fell asleep.

I have told him I would like him to be with me if he wants once I have healed, and have been hoping what I have felt is real. I dont feel him all the time, which I feel is accurate. I think hes probably keeping his distance right now so I can adjust to the change and not depend on him. I have been experiencing things like seeing his face, feeling his hand on my shoulder, hearing his voice and laugh, and hearing thoughts I dont believe to be my own.

I feel I am following my instincts correctly because I have made an effort to not obsess, and to focus on other things, as well as have a life. But as anyone hurting, he literally had half of my heart, and the world feels very weird and different without him here. Of course I'm happy he is no longer suffering but its hard to realize that I can no longer see him or talk to him.

Also, I have been thinking... do you think its possible for him to have become one of my guides? I feel it would make sense. It would explain why I could always tell when he was himself. And we were so so connected, I almost feel that he is probably missing me too. I'm sure he knows I believe, and that would allow to communicate with me, and come and go, while knowing it won't freak me out.

I apologize for the long post. I have just been feeling like I needed to say all of this out loud to someone who might share my point of view with intuition. Thank you for listening and I look forward to hearing your thoughts. :)

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Anonymous said...

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Karen Davenport said...

Myself and my 2 girls have been hearing someone calling our names like my dad used to do, he passed in 2008. We have heard a voice through the tv, have heard sounds unexplained. My 2 year old grandson, laughs when no one is around, and sometimes cries out of the blue while staring at the wall. How do i know who this is, and do i talk back? it gets scary. i so want it to be my dad, i dream about him alot

Yvonne Perry said...

Call upon your guides as well as Archangels Michael and Chamuel and ask then to clear any detrimental or harmful energy from your home and personal space. You can use sage to smudge the area if you feel led to. The activity should cease, and you know it was not your father. Next, ask your father to reveal himself in a way that you will know without a doubt that it is him. There are certain things that were characteristic of him and you will recognize these traits. Be sure to pay attention to synchronicity, animals and objects that cross your path, songs you hear on the radio, and smells that represent him. You may even taste or have a craving for a food that was his favorite.

I trust this will help you identify your visitor and remove any unwanted energy that is not serving you. Keep us posted as to how this goes.

Yvonne Perry said...

Chrissy, it is indeed possible for a deceased loved one to become your guide after leaving the body. Souls have "friends" or partners that help one another with soul development. one may be in body while the other is in spirit serving as a guide or support. Or, they may both incarnate at the same time and be in close proximity to assist in human form. They can also work together in spirit without a body.

Karen Davenport said...

Thank you very much Yvonne, this has been happening for over 8 months, I will try the sage and will let you know the outcome, Thank you again

Yvonne Perry said...

You are very welcome, Karen. Do keep in touch.

Victoria said...

Thank you very much for blessing me with these posts and comments. My mom passed away 2 weeks ago after a battle with a rare disease called scleroderma. I am only 21 years old and the past two weeks have been so hard and I know it will only get harder as major milestones in my adult life come and go. But through these comments I have found hope and faith that my mom will come to me with a sign that she is now okay and not suffering. I now know that my mom will be with me forever.

Yvonne Perry said...

Victoria, thank you for leaving a comment here. Our thoughts and prayers are with you in losing your mom so recently. I trust that she will give you a sign that she is with you.

Anonymous said...

Hi Yvonne,
My mum passed away a year ago. I loved her so much. In the weeks after she died, I have had two very vivid dreams where we speak normally together - just as if we would have. The next days I was so emotional as they were so incredibly real, and in no way dream like at all. In another dream she kissed me and I could feel the kiss for days. Recently, I have the feeling that she is "inside" me. It's as if I am in her body, with her mannerisms. This usually happens during mundane day to day activities in house or when I am sitting down. They don't last very long. What does this mean? Sas

Yvonne Perry said...

It is very common for people to have very real dreams about their deceased loved one. when one of these dreams stick with you in a profound manner, these are actual visitations rather than processing dreams.

We are in a period of time when human consciousness as a whole is shifting into purer (less diluted and separate) form. Future and past selves as well as advanced and highly evolved aspects are merging. Thus, we have some unusual situations in which we feel like we have merged with others who were once in our lives. This is because that "other" person who played a role in our life was actually a very close member of our soul family/group or possibly even as aspect of our own essence. I've written a book about this titled Walk-ins Among Us. See http://walkinsamongus.org if you are interested in learning more about soul merging and integration.

Anonymous said...

Thank you Yvonne for your response. I've just been reading your site too. Is there anything that I can do to be more receptive of this and for communication?

Yvonne Perry said...

Being receptive and asking for a visit is the key to sensing your loved ones around you. The second thing (after paying attention to the signs they give you) is to believe what you hear, see, or sense rather than second guessing it.

Anonymous said...

Thank you - I'm just off to buy your book too.

Best wishes and thank you so very much to have shared this with you.

Yvonne Perry said...

Thank you for reading my book. Let me know if you have more questions.

Anonymous said...

I live in London. I have just been reading on your website that you offer coaching. As I am so far away and don't have skype etc is this something that could be done via email. Is there a website to find out more about the type of coaching i.e. costs and whether I am suitable for coaching.

Best wishes

Yvonne Perry said...

I typically use Skype for my out-of-US clients, but those who do not have that option may email me through my website to set up email coaching. http://weare1inspirit.com

Anonymous said...

I had a boyfriend commit suicide about 12 years ago. For many years he was a strong pressance in my dreams. Dreaming that he took me to show me where he stays now, it was a weird beach, with very dark waters, but felt peaceful. I havent dreamt or felt him much lately, which saddens me. I always try to ask him to come and visit, he hasnt. The last time was months ago, when I was very sick with the flu. He came to me and held me and I cried because I didnt want him to leave, he looked over his shoulder as if he was talking to someone and told them that I wanted him to stay a little longer, I heard other voices say he couldnt, that he had to leave. we said our goodbyes and i love yous, i havent had contact since then. I guess I would like to know why they will come all the time, then visit so scarcely...

Yvonne Perry said...

Souls have work to do in other dimensions. therefore, after they leave their body, there is a grace period (varies from one soul to the next) in which the soul may hang out around the family it just left. After the grace period is up, it's back to work and the visits become less frequent.

Claudette said...

My little 2 year old grandson has been telling myself (his grandmother) and his mom that Ole MeiMei is here. She is my Mother that passed almost two years ago. My Mama got to hold Zachary when he was a few months old when her health was declining and she was in the nursing home. Every now and then thru the last year I would show him her picture and he would kiss the picture of ole Mei Mei. Lately when in my bathroom he will say "Ole MeiMei is here" and point to the ceiling, always in same place, and at his home he'll say "I see Ole MeiMei." It brings comfort, but does this mean he sees other spirits or just her. He has trouble staying asleep all night wakes up crying and wants to be downstairs on sofa. We say "oh that's nice Ole MeiMei is here" and then we go on with other conversations. I believe that is the right thing to do.I wish I could see my Mom but I do talk to her.I see no reason that Zack would say this other than he does see her, but he is not afraid when he says it. What do you think? We are Catholics, not sure how to feel about this. Thank you so much! I told My Mom outloud the other day that if other spirits were bothering him to please tell them to stop scaring him at night, and since then he has slept all night. Sincerely Claudette Charlet tcharlet5@gmail.com

Rosie Sanchez said...

My husbands grandfather past away recently and it was very hard for my husband to cope with. last night he woke me up because he said he heard someone talking to him but cant remember what the person was saying and he couldnt talk or move. he said it felt like someone was holding his hands. it happened twice last night, his grandfather and him where very close that man was the rock of our family. could it possibly be him reaching out to my husband? or just how my husband is dealing with his grief?

Yvonne Perry said...

Deceased loved ones often come to us in dreams because that is when we are less guarded with all our filters that don't allow us to believe that supernatural encounters are the norm rather than the unexpected or impossible.

I've had many people report that they could feel the spirit of a loved one touching them or sitting on the bed with them during these visits. They come to us from other side to help us move past our grief in the early months after their passing, which many times helps us find closure. They come at various times afterward to help us get through a difficult situation. Yes, it is very possibly that your husband's grandfather paid him a visit to help him deal with his grief.

Anonymous said...

My Dad passed away in Dec 28/2010. I dream with him but i see him in my drems younger tan when he passed. He is quiet and observes everything. I really miss my Dad a lot. How can I do to dream more often with him?Also my grandma just passed away in May and I would like to see her too . I was very lose to them.I just would like to know that hey are Ok and keep in touch with them.

Thank you .


Titi said...

My Dad passed away in Dec 28/2010. I dream with him but i see him in my drems younger tan when he passed. He is quiet and observes everything. I really miss my Dad a lot. How can I do to dream more often with him?Also my grandma just passed away in May and I would like to see her too . I was very lose to them.I just would like to know that hey are Ok and keep in touch with them.

Thank you .

Yvonne Perry said...

Titi, it is not uncommon for loved ones to appear to us younger than they were when they passed. They are able to take on any identity from any lifetime. Actually, I believe that all lifetimes run simultaneously and that there is no "passed" or future lives. All is now.

Mike K said...

My Dad just died suddenly last week, and just like some other people who commented my mother and me were very spooked at first but now we are trying to hide our fear so he will not be discouraged by our fear but, When it first happens your natural reaction is to have fear (unlike any earthly fear you have felt before) Its a totally different kind of scared, but once you realize its someone you love it's easier to accept! Be grateful most people never get any contact with a recently deceased loved one! DON'T BE SCARED!

Yvonne Perry said...

It can be unnerving when you first have an encounter with a disembodied spirit. I remember when I first started communicating with them. I was afraid at first then it became annoying because they were in my bedroom waking me up in the middle of the night. I had to set boundaries with them and that stopped the interruption.

It is comforting when we learn that we actually know the spirit and that they many times have a message for us--mainly to let us know they are okay in the afterlife. They like to know that we are okay too.

Anonymous said...

my mother pass 1 year and 2months ago..my brother and sister passed away 9years ago. my mother had three children God kept me here for a reason. myself and my dad never had that dad son relationship. my sister came back to visit me. my mother and brother hasn't. I'm OK on the outside but I'm hurting on the inside. I need my mother to come visit me. my dad has a wife and three other grown children. only one of the girl get alone with me but we don't talk much. they are in there on world. I need help

Yvonne Perry said...

It's hard to say why some loved ones come to visit and others don't. I have reason to believe it has to do with these three things:

1. the connection/lack of connection they felt for you during their life time,
2. their after-Earth life mission (locale or ability/inability to connect with the earth plane),
3. whether or not they had unfinished business with you

Feel free to suggest other reasons, but these are the most common ones that I have come across in my research.

Yvonne

Anonymous said...

My Grandmother died September 2013. Almost 3 weeks later I left my room for about 20 seconds. When I returned there was an over whelming smell of flowers in the room. It was so thick like I never smelled before. I checked the other rooms no smell. Then returned there it was again. Shockingly thick. I knew who it was my grandmother. It felt creepy because the smell was over powering. But overall comforting. It went away after about 2 hours. 2 weeks later this smell was infront of my neighbor in my house. She said come here smell. I did and there it was , but only in ine area then itvis gone. Ever since she has been there every day all day or night. Doorways , all rooms and hallways mostly. She has followed me when running errands in car, outside just about anywhere. It has been about two and a half months now. Some days it seems easier and the smell not under my nose all day long anymore. Also smell not as potend anymore. Then the next day she will be there all day again. Had priest come in even though I'm not Catholic. After that was more tolerable as far as the smell not as potent or hot and cold spots being as powerful. I was vey happy at first when she visited and felt comfort. But now that she is here every day and pretty much all day i'm creeped out to say the least. She is also not shy infront of some of my friends or neighbors. I know it's my grandmother I also often smell her perfume from when she was younger in germany. My cat follows her with her eyes and smells her leaning forward. I have had a very heavy spiritual experience with my grandfather which was her husband. I'm not feeling comfortable anymore not knowing if she is going to leave and go to her final resting place. Have tried sage and all. We were close but have not been able to see her do to family problems. But I wanted ti see her. I want to know is she earthbound and attached to me? Or will she move on? I love her very much but it is time to move on.

Yvonne Perry said...

I would say this is an earthbound spirit or soul aspect that did not cross over. This invasion (even though she's your grandmother) is like having a friend show up at your door uninvited everyday and stay until all hours while disrespecting your privacy. This is not comforting and personally, I would not allow it.

If you have used sage and asked her to leave, and she doesn't, then ask yourself what you are doing to allow or require her presence there. Is there some unfinished business between the two of you? Call in your highest guidance aligned with the Light and then sit down with her and say whatever it is you need to say. Thank her for being in your life while she was in body and let her know that you love her but need her to leave. Tell her how she is negatively affecting you. Most deceased loved ones do not want to cause harm to their family members--they just don't know they are being a bother. Your grandmother may have something to say to you that will give her the peace and resolution she needs to move on. Then call upon archangels Michael and Chamuel and ask them to escort her to the light or some place in the afterlife where she can continue her soul's development and ascension.

I hope that helps you resolve this intrusion. Feel free to keep in touch and let me know how you are progressing.

Anonymous said...

Can your death family members try to take you with them? or can they show you or somehow let you know when something bad is going to happen?

Yvonne Perry said...

I've heard people say that loved ones who have passed from the body have urged an incarnated soul to die in order to join them in the afterlife. This cord is an unhealthy attachment--even if the entity is a loved one--that needs to be cut. Remember that ghosts or spirits are just humans without bodies. If a person tried to manipulate you while they were in body, they may likely continue to do so from the afterlife. Setting strong boundaries with this soul/entity is very important so that you are not talked into abandoning your mission just to please the deceased.

Anonymous said...

My ex fiance recently died a tragic death. He was depressed and took too many tylenol. He and I were so much in love but life caught up with us and I moved to the city while he stayed in the country. I have never stopped loving him and he had wanted us to try again for the last year but I didn't because I didn't want to move. He died thinking I didn't love him and its killing me. I think he is trying to contact me. I have felt him lay down on my bed actually see the matteras move. I have felt little feather touches on my cheeks and arms. And the other night I woke up to get some water and I was thinking of him. A burst of blue light like a camera flash went off by the bathroom mirror. I am positive this is him. I feel grateful to have had these experiences. I really hope I see him. Do you think he can hear me? I want to apologize and tell him I do love him.

Yvonne Perry said...

If your ex-fiance has gone to this much trouble to let you know that he is with you, you can bet that he can also hear you. Light a candle and sit down like he's there with you (because he is!) and tell him everything that is on your heart. Make sure that you let him know that it is okay for him to go into the light and that you will be okay. Higher missions and developmental opportunities await his soul in the afterlife. He and you can ask for angels and his I AM presence to escort him to these loving experiences in more beautiful realms.

Highest and best to you both!

sarah said...

When two people are in love and one dies. Is that other person with them? When both die are their souls together like in earth? How does it change.

Anonymous said...

My husband was murdered 5 hours after we got married, on my wedding day. We were totally in love with each other. The day after he was killed, was when he started to connect with me and it has continued. few hour's after he was killed, he actually showed me that he was still around by making my garter fall off my leg in two pieces. I actually felt as if it had been cut, while I was sitting down talking to the detectives. I knew it was him straight away, because I smiled. At first his spiritual presences where so heavy, like he did not know how to control his new power. He has connected with me in so many ways, the list is endless.
One of the ways is through my dreams. Two nights ago I had a wonderful visitation. I was laying down in my bed when I felt the cover being pulled from over my head. I knew it was him straight away, my head started to go all tingly and spinning. I couldn't move or talk. I saw the torso of my husband right in front of me I knew it was him, because he took my hand and put it around his waist, like he wanted me to feel him. I ran my hand over his chest and felt that he had his white ribbed vest on. I knew that this was not a dream as I could feel his warmth. I lifted my hand to touch his arm; squeezing it, I could actually feel the touch of him. He never said a word and within seconds he was gone. When I came to myself, all that morning I could feel him around me, as it is so easy for me to tell now; as my head goes all tingly. To confirm that he was really here he also left me another sign.
I have an open bible with my husband's red handkerchief, I've displayed it between the page like a book mark. While I was talking to my son; I felt my husband around me near the window where the bible was placed, which was high up on the shelf. I tuned around to see that the handkerchief was no longer in the bible it was hanging down like a flag out of the bible. My son was a little unnerved, but I was able to comfort him and let him know that it was ok. My husband really makes huge efforts to show me that his soul is still very much alive. This has really helped with the grieving process.
Jacqueline La Touche Cousins

Yvonne Perry said...

While losing your husband through murder on your wedding night is the most sad thing to have to endure, it sure is comforting to see how he is still blessing you with his presence in so many tangible ways. Thank you so much for sharing this!

J said...

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J said...

My dad passed in 2003 and my mom in 2008. 2 nights ago on Christmas Eve into Christmas at 1:10 a.m. my mom clearly called out my name. I was wide awake lying in bed at the time. Both my dogs heard her voice as they perked right up, and my one dog who is DEAF barked at her and ran after her.
My deaf dog is ALWAYS barking at something / someone he sees in the house. He even goes running into the hallway and into one of the bedrooms. I'm positive they see my parents because I feel their presence in the home every day. I live in my parents' home - the home I grew up in.
These visitations are welcoming and comforting to me.
The first time my mom came to see me was less than a year after she passed away. I saw her in the hallway outside my bedroom one night. I got out of bed, went to her, and started crying. She asked me, "Why are you crying?" I said, "Mom, I miss you SO much." She said, "I'm fine." I went to hug her, and she was gone.
She has come back to me on many occasions -- a year later waking me up to tell me that I had left the spaghetti pot on the stove and had better "GET UP! You're going to burn the house down!" I woke up and remembered I had spaghetti that night and was so tired, I laid down for a bit. I ran out to the kitchen and, sure enough, I HAD left the spaghetti pot on a stove burner that was on.
I've also heard my parents talking to each other in their bedroom very late at night (although I couldn't make out what they were saying), and have had several very real dreams with them. One dream was that I was with them at a bus terminal. The 3of us were going somewhere. The bus arrived, and they were no longer in line. Instead, I saw them standing against the wall of the terminal. I said, "Come on - you'll miss the bus." My dad said, "You get on it. You still have a lot of things to do. Don't worry about us. Your mom and I will be here waiting for you when you're done."
Last week when I was in my home office, I smelled my mom's perfume twice on 2 nights.
I dream a lot about my dad but he comes to me in very vivid dreams. I KNOW he is with me continually, because I talk to him every day, and I hear him in my head telling me, "Your mom and I have never left you." I asked my dad last week to give me a signal that he's with me, and he said, "It's in the house. You'll have to find it." "Great," I thought. "Where in the house?" I opened a dresser drawer last week and I saw for the very first time in decades a Valentine to me from my dad, DESPITE the many times I had opened that drawer in recent years and had never seen it. It reads on the front, "A Valentine Just for You" and inside he signed it, "Dad. I love you! X " ("X" being a kiss). That's all the proof I needed, but their favorite charity is a well-known children's research hospital. I had planned on making a Christmas donation in honor of and in memory of Mom and Dad, when I heard my dad tell me last week to double it. I told him, "I'm not working right now, Dad; I can't." Again, I heard him tell me, "Double it." My parents were firm believers in "When you give, you get." 3 days ago I phoned to make the dollar donation Dad told me to make, and I told the lady of my experience with my dad. She said, "That was DEFINITELY your dad talking to you. One of our benefactors just stepped up last week and said that between then and Christmas he'd match every donation dollar for dollar, so your donation just DOUBLED what we actually got. Thank you, thank your dad for us, and Merry Christmas."
The very next day after my looking for a job for a very, very, VERY long time, I received notice that I got one! 1 day after making the donation. "When you give, you get." "You're right, Dad. You were ALWAYS right. Thank you. Merry Christmas, Dad."

Yvonne Perry said...

J, I am so touched and blessed by your story about your parents and how your donation was doubled and then you got a job. This is such a profound and beautiful way that our deceased loved ones work with us and it shows how truly connected in spirit we are.

Anonymous said...

I had a friend her name was Toni we were the best of friends. Well Toni died late saturday night early sunday morning 13 years ago she died at home unexpectedly and no one found her until monday. But that monday morning I called her and of course she didnt answer she had passed but I didnt know until monday evening that she had passed. I had called her to tell her hey Toni answer your phone our song is on and I want you to listen to it with me. The song that was our song was called Lifes A Dance. Well that monday evening I got a phone call another friend had called to tell me that Toni had died. I was shocked. Well about a week later I was awoken one night Toni was standing by my bed and let me tell you she was absolutely beautiful. Toni had an aura around her that was so beautiful. Toni in life wore glasses The Toni standing by my bed didnt wear glasses anymore. She told me that she wanted to let me know that she was ok and that she was going to be my grandaughters guardian angel. Toni came to me twice after that but everytime I hear our song Lifes A Dance I know its her

Yvonne Perry said...

OH, wow! I just wrote an article about how deceased loved ones can become our guardians or spirit guides. See http://ezinearticles.com/?Can-My-Deceased-Loved-One-Become-My-Spirit-Guide?&id=8209676

Anonymous said...

Hello thank you for replying. It is January the 14th now. Lots of thinks have happened with my grandma's spirit here. But getting less frequent and less powerful. I have had a spiritual visit from my grandfather too many years ago. It was beautiful. And also feel that this is the best gift a could have received from my grandmother. This visit was on a different level, something I have not experienced and was afraid of the unknown. But to say the least i'm starting to miss my grandma already as I know this is coming to an end. I keep getting February the 1st 2014. I know all the reasons why she wanted to stay before moving on. To protect and comfort me for so many reasons. We connected spiritual. My question is can these visits happen with other family members that are manipulative and I do not connect with spiritualy ocean they pass? So far I have had 2 long visits my grandma and my grandpa which loved me very much and I spiritualy connected with.

Yvonne Perry said...

I'm writing this to Anonymous from January 14, 2014 but also to anyone who might be helped by it.

It is quite normal for a loved one's visits to become less frequent and less powerful as time passes. While I know you miss your grandma, be assured that this is actually a good sign that her soul is adapting to the higher realms and her astral body is being absorbed into the light. This doesn't mean that she won't be able to visit you. Her visits may be less noticeable because her vibration will be higher than what humans typically sense during our hurried days. If you take time to reach the stillness of your own heart, you will raise your vibration and be more likely to sense her presence. You may be able to call her in and share a sweet exchange of loving energy. During these meditation moments, you may also be able to connect with other family members who are of a high vibration. a

Those who are manipulative have a denser astral body and you will likely be able to feel them more easily. They are closer to the vibration of the earth plane and its chaos. You can tell them to "take a hike" any time they bother you. Your personal energy field and private home space is yours to control. You do not have to be bothered by these spirits.

Anonymous said...

Hi...i lost my bf recently on 20th jan 2014...he was 23 yr old...and d reason of dead is blood pressure low...just in 30min thos happnd....i can smell his fragrant...but i dont feel its true....im lost..and have no intention of living..and i really want to know how to die and go to him..im lost :(

Anonymous said...

I recently lost my father approximately 7 weeks ago. I'm desperate to hear from him, needing to know that he's ok. He was my biggest fan, we were very close. Any suggestions on how I should go about reconnecting with him? I miss him dearly.

Yvonne Perry said...

It is understandable that you would want to connect with your loved one to know that he or she is doing well. Each soul has a path to follow after leaving the body. Some go directly to the light and are never heard from again or not for a long while. Others hang around a few days or weeks and then move on. Connecting with a deceased loved one through a seance and asking them to manifest creates a very strong "pull" that can interrupt the progress of a soul in the afterlife. It is best to simply invite the soul to visit with you if/when they can and then wait patiently without demanding. We are all connected in spirit, which means you can sit in meditation with your guides and talk to the loved one as if he or she is in the room with you. If your loved one cannot come or respond at that time, you can trust that the message will reach them. Think of it as emailing or texting them.

Tom fraser said...

I am twenty nine and my mum committed suicide 1/8/2014 then 2 weeks later I was just about to fall asleep when I felt a hand softly touching my face I then lightly took hold of the wrist and started to slowly open my lids, as my vision became visible I could see my mum lying next to me and she was smiling and the more I opened my eye lids to see her fully she just slowly faded away and moving backward into a darkness still smiling and called out her and I said "please don't go mum please don't go" but for reason I let go of her wrist and she's was gone. For the next five minutes i cryed my eyes out telling her thankyou.